Wednesday, August 12, 2009

Our Visit to Beantown

Last Saturday Julie and I made a day trip to Boston. We planned on having lunch with a friend from New York and dinner with my cousin and her husband*. We started our day early, waking up at the crack of 9 and dragging ourselves out the door escaping the flurry of banging and breakfast making.

Our drive could not have been any smoother. This being our first trip to Boston since moving to Massofchewedsticks we were delightfully surprised to find that it is pretty much a straight line there, however that is not to say it was in any way dull. Route 2 is a regular treasure trove of roadkill. First we came upon your standard fare, a squirrel here, an opossum there, but when we passed the dust bitten pelts of two cats and what looked like a boar a new game was born! We tried to imagine what scenarios might have sealed the fate for these out-of-place animals. Perhaps the cats were just bastards? Scratching the furniture of some dad who never wanted them in the first place, who then saw his morning commute to be the perfect solution to his fur ball infestation. The boar likely could have escaped from a butcher truck, or felt like living out the stampede scene of Lion King, only to fail miserably and immediately. When we came across a fallen falcon we were perplexed. No such noble bird ever seems to soar lower than thirty feet. We could only surmise that perhaps it had mistaken a Smart car for a mouse, considering that they must look like equal size from that distance.

After about ninety minutes of driving and one brush with death we finally made it to the Boston Commons where we put the awesome $11 all day parking to use. We took a stroll as Julie pointed out all the sights of her old stomping grounds. The Boston Commons, the bridge in the public gardens, the man wearing clogs pushing a stroller, her first dorm, the place where she had to hand clothes to naked men for some "play" she stage managed (grimace), the burial place of Sam Adams, the burial place of Mary "Mother" Goose.

It was at this point I felt I needed a break from all the morbidity and we stopped in the nearest 7-11 for a Ginger Ale. After paying for the soda a small family of tourists cut the line demanding to know if there were any socks for sale. From the look of them they seemed that their shorts to tube sock ratio was complete, but for whatever reason they needed more, and they needed them now! As the cashier hesitantly questioned the store's stock of socks (try saying that five times fast!) Julie perked up to inform the woman that there were multiple stores around the corner that would sell her the socks she so desperately needed. The woman politely thanked her, then turned back to the cashier to continue her interrogation over foot underwear.

We made our way to Faneuil Hall loosely following the freedom trail. While there, we took in the sights, namely the scantily clad silver woman doing the robot for change. It was there that we met up with Jojo and her crew. While they were traveling together it appeared as though each of the sixsome had their own agenda. As a result we resolved to pick up a quick snack and sit for a little face time before continuing the journey through the real world text book. Julie recognized a certain chowder shoppe that she remembered from her youth and we picked up a couple of soccer ball sized soup in bread bowls. Astonishingly enough we found a space large enough to seat us all amidst the crowded outdoor plaza. While sipping on our bowling ball's worth of lobster bisque (or creamed corn in Julie's case) we got caught up with what we have been missing in the City we departed not three months ago. As we sat there we had a delightful run in with Julie's brother Neeily Dan and his girlfriend Pal Jodi. It turned out that she had arranged a special day for him which included walking the Freedom Trail.

As Julie pestered me as to why I don't do nice things like that for her we continued on our way. We passed a few landmarks, a tour guide maintaining the character of a 19th century town crier, right down to the walking stick and sense (moreover lack) of humor. Then after shouldering our way through a crowded market we decided it was time to part ways. We made our farewells and footed it back to the commons, stopping at the landmarks we had recently passed by.

By the time we got there our feet were in desperate need of rest, so we made ourselves comfy on a bench and reflected on our day. As we watched a man in a cherry picker drive down the sidewalk and into traffic we developed a loose plan for the rest of our afternoon. To give the play-by-play: we strolled down Newbury Street, passed through the Prudential Building, then made our way to Copley Square to meet up with Jodidaya and Neil of Steel again at the mall. After some tense moments in a Victoria Secret Julie and I felt it was time to make our way to my cousin's.

We arrived at their cozy second floor apartment on the smallest street in the world. It was delightful to catch up with relatives whom it feels like only recently I had gotten a chance to know. We caught up on everything from the dirty, behind the scenes stories of the wedding to, of course, blogging! With my cousin having just launched her own blog, and her husband managing somewhere around 500 of them there was a lot to talk about. But frankly, I feel a little narcissistic when talking about myself and this blog. Sure it's all I ever talk about, but still it's bad enough I write long winded posts like this one, no one needs to hear how great it... they can read for themselves.

Around twelve hours after our big adventure began, it was over. We made our way home, through the roundabouts and past the discarded pets that now lay in darkness scantly illuminated by passing cars. While it makes me realize that I no longer feel at home in an urban setting, we did have a great time and hope to find some reason to get back out there again soon, even if it is just to dump some future pet we just don't want anymore.


*previously alluded to in a photo essay experiment. No not the old people.

Friday, August 7, 2009

Boomerbook

Sitting around my grandmother's living room visiting with 3 generations of S-Dub's family tree, there are topics you'd expect to arise: The weather. Who has recently died. That darn government trying to take elderly drivers off the road. (Here here Grammy!) Black people. ( No Grammy, no.)

But tonight, a new topic: Facebook. No, neither Zane nor I brought it up, but my 61-year-old uncle was proudly discussing his profile. Facebook. You have betrayed us. I don't know about you, but I remember when this crazy thing, often referred to as "The" Facebook for the first month, arose back in my early college days. The concept of connecting college campuses was awesome. I even remember the joy when new colleges joined the network and other friends in nearby universities could chat.

But then Facebook sold its soul to the devil. High schoolers. Here I thought that was the end of the world. It had muddied its water with this glitter crazed, book covered, notepads doodled to high heaven brood. Little did I know what was to come. Now everyone has a "status" and wants to gift me a puppy or some crappy heart. What does this all mean? What is the point? When did we fall off the path of just wanting to keep in contact? Now I've got people poking me left and right and I just don't like it.

It feels wrong having to "friend" my uncle, or aunt, or cousin. There is no "family" option. Heck, my brother ignored my request for him to be acknowledged as my brother for 3 weeks. You can't hide from the truth Stainless Neil! Those days, weeks, even months waiting for family to befriend you and acknowledge your pathetic request... heartwrenching. But after tonight's talk I realize I have been mistaken. My uncle is not twiddling his thumbs assessing my track record of friendships, not counting how many fans I have, even seeing what I've been up to lately or how sassy my status update is. He's just trying to figure out how to log on.

Wednesday, August 5, 2009

Hers and His: The Book?

With the first 50 blog posts under our belt I've been feeling a bit frisky to start something of a larger project. While our door isn't necessarily being knocked off its hinges by publishers looking for a fresh new franchise that will pander to that niche tween/sorority girl demographic that missed the Harry Potter boat, but has too much pride to pick up the Twilight series; that doesn't mean we shouldn't give it the old college try. Certainly the market is saturated with books on coupling and learning to cope, but I can't help but think we may have what it takes to bring something new to the table.

Now I can't speak for Julie, but I am no master linguist. With a complete lack of knowledge as to what a comma is or how it's used and no desire ever to write in the 3rd person, the options for me are pretty slim. I suppose we could write a guide on how to avoid awkward silences with the incorporation of musical instruments in daily life, or our experiences in going through the motions... uh I mean 'paces' of starting a life together; me, no longer under the watchful eye of my parents, and Julie, giving up the need to be right for the first time. The possibilities are limited!

Julie and I have always stuck by the principal of never embellishing or writing any falsehoods. Often times I'm temped to make something up purely for humor, then I think to myself "Zane you are writing a book, not some sort of blog where you can tell bold face lies to make the reader feel like some gullible, unaccomplished, dolt!" With a book this vow is more important than ever. It is not simply something people check in on when they're not surfing porn or old civil war memorabilia on ebay. It's something I'm expecting people to go to the store and spend their hard laundered money on.

It's silly, I know, but all my crippling insecurities tell me that I should leave the literary fame to those with little things like achievements and talent. Despite my better judgement I don't think I'll be able to resist plagiarism. No matter how hard I try I feel nothing sounds as good as something someone else wrote. The first draft shows this all too clearly:

"Julie and I have always shared so many great laughs together, but as with all retold tales that are in people's hearts, there are only good and bad things and black and white things and good and evil things and no in-between. If this story is a parable, perhaps everyone takes his own meaning from it and reads his own life into it.
Often Julie wishes that I'd tell her when she has something in her teeth, but no one mentioned such things; it was not a rule but was considered rude to call attention to things that were unsettling or different about individuals. Her scorn was too terrible for me to take. When she introduced physical abuse into the relationship I wept for the end of innocence, the darkness of man's heart, and the fall through the air of the true, wise friend called Piggy."

It did not go over so well with the people I asked to proofread it. They complained it was too convoluted and nonsensical. Sure I had never been to Venice or the 16th century but come on! It's a metaphor! They were also confused as to why the third chapter was entirely in Russian; I couldn't explain to them that that was the only copy of Crime and Punishment I could find, for that would be admitting that I was a fraud.

I suppose now is not the time to think about turning this blog into something that will gather dust on the shelves of Barnes and Nobel next to the books on weight loss and overcoming the metabolic demon that makes you smoke cigarettes. No, perhaps we should wait for after our 100th post.

Monday, August 3, 2009

NoHo.... UhOh

Many of you probably wonder why Zane and I are currently residing in a small nowhere town whose name is synonymous with sphincter. Well my friends, Athol is merely a pit stop on our way to a much more fruitful land... Northampton (NoHo), MA. NoHo is known for its wonderful arts and culture, Smith College, many great restaurants...and lesbians. Neither Zane or myself ARE lesbians, but we are both utterly fascinated with the people watching NoHo offers up. We have been taking trips out there occasionally to prepare ourselves for the awesome downtown shopping and music and I would like to report our findings.

On our first trip out since moving to Massachusetts, Zane and I had a sweet date night to commemorate the anniversary of our meeting. It was at our dinner table we opted out of engaging conversation and instead reached for the notepad to assess the list of achievements we'd made that was later turned into a blog post. [see: 525,600 minutes...] After dinner we strolled around to soak in the atmosphere and humidity when Zane made his first keen observation: the girls look like boys here. Looking around beyond the flannel and Tevas, I shrugged and agreed. Yes, hippies had taken on a more androgynous look here in Western Mass. We both vowed to not wear hiking sandals with or without socks post-move.

OR

Our more recent jaunt to our future haunts was on a double date with local blog stars S-Dub and Crunchbarry....aka my parents. After a fine dinner of sushi and a delicious treat at the bakery, we visited some late night shops. Descending a steep, non-AARP approved staircase into a late night record store, I noticed that not only are there lots of boy-girls, but lots of rastas. This made me feel at home as one of my dear friends in NYC had introduced me to the joys of dreadlocks. By introduced me I don't mean I ever sported them (though tempted) I mean she let me pet hers. After my moment of reflection passed I found out another thing about NoHo: people only exist between the ages of 19 and 33. As my balding father in a short sleeve button up tucked into his pleated khaki shorts and Jesus sandals (ok, on that note he fit in) rifled through old albums, he seemed to stand out a bit in the crowd of hipsters and hippies. He was... hipreplacementy. Mom, well, she mostly just held onto her purse tightly as to not have one of the hooligans walk off with it. This gave Zane the hint to stop snatching at her purse every time she walked by.

In an effort to assimilate ourselves with our future home, Zane and I have taken to immersing ourselves in the culture even in Athol. Our independent film watching has increased, bathing decreased and I have begun to wear his clothes instead of mine. Most recently we decided to relax at home, make some popcorn and put on a flick to pass the evening hours. It being Zane's turn to pick I knew it would be something odd and film-schooly that I never had heard of. And disappoint he did not. Once Venus Boyz began I was hooked.


The evening became a series of "Wait...that's a...?" and "Woah! I thought he, I mean she..." You know a movie that begins with a taxi cab interview with a crossdresser from Berlin justifying her affinity for male genitalia but her inaffection to actually HAVE one is gonna be at least one thumb up. And let me tell you, that's not ALL that was up in Venus Boyz!

**Spoiler Alert**
We tried to remember our favorite lines and parts as the film progressed but it just kept one upping itself that we just sat speechless at the end. I know there was one point where an interview was going on but in the background of this room... in a building of some sorts... was a shovel leaning next to a pile of dirt with a hole dug into it. As I write this I wonder if it was supposed to be some subliminal message about... well, I won't give too much away.

It turned into a judgement of who was more convincing and who you could tell right away was a lady. I got confused when they paired off with other wo-men. Would that make them gay? Or lesbian? And there I'd get caught up with America's need to categorize people by the outdated standards established in a far gone era. I have Venus Boyz to thank for broadening my horizons. Now I can no longer look at NoHo as a spectacle of dykey gals browsing discount used records and enjoying gelato. Now I see it as a land where I too can discover the hairer side of myself. A place where razors don't exist and fake stubble is encouraged. I've always wanted to know the liberation of shaving my head. Sinead O'Connor, psssh she couldn't commit. She could only handle pseudo androgyny. I, I am going the whole 9 Yards. All I have to do now is find out where Crunchbarry keeps his duct tape. It's gonna take a lot to bind these puppies down.

Saturday, August 1, 2009

Bathtub Wookies 2: What Lies Beneath

You've seen the commercial "Did you ever try to take a shower, but wound up taking a bath?"...

You've met the man responsible "Hi Anthony Sullivan here..."

Then it happens...

A wad of hair clogs a pipe and the solution isn't to put some sort of dangerous chemical down the drain to desintigrate it. The solution in this particular commercial is the 'Turbo Snake'. A metal wire you stick in the drain then use to wrap up the hair clog like spaghetti and tug the fistful of old sodden hair from the moist shadowy pits. As you may have read in one of my first posts* I have a thing against disembodied hair and drains. This commercial could quite possibly qualify as being my worse nightmare. Every time it comes on I feel as though I'm in the movie Saw minus the device forcing my eyelids open and used Turbo Snakes dangling inches from my face.

::Warning:: If you have just eaten or plan to eat any time in the next lifetime don't view the following videos. As a card-carrying Mythbuster I am obligated to site my references.




The state of television today is deplorable. Not in the liberties taken with showing sex and violence, but the infomercials of disgusting products that play ad nauseam. Take the Ped-Egg for example (of Pedo-Files as I like to call them). Who knew that by rubbing some little plastic device on the soles of your feet could produce a half-pound of parmeasian cheese? Who in their right mind would think that such an image was appropriate for national television, let alone a commercial that plays directly after an ad for the Olive Garden.



A somewhat older ad that I detest is for Lamisil. It stars Diggy the Dermatophyte an anthropomorphic bacteria from Staten Island, hell-bent on throwing a house party under your toenails. This nasty little vagrant and his lowlife kin squat on your nail-bed and turn it into their own personal crack den.


That current Nutri-Grain ad, I just shudder thinking about it.



Ok maybe that one's just me. It's not necessarily gross, I just also have a big problem with certain kinds of alarm clock sounds, but that's another post for another day.



*See the prequal Bathtub Wookies back in February.


Thursday, July 30, 2009

Baby Momma Drama

Tucked deep into the woods, there isn't much to do out here for fun, let alone people watching. Everyone knows everyone in the boonies... that is, everyone but us. To get our fill of gawking at strangers, an old habit formed after lengthy subway rides in New York City, we have turned to our new favorite hotspot: Hannafords.

You may recognize the name from previous posts, and the gems from there keep on coming. Affectionately dubbed "Hannies", we tend to visit once a week even if we don't need/can't afford anything.

Originally we met our friends who introduced us to "The Barn" [see: I need an adult! 6/10/09] and left curious what other oddities the Athol area held. Later on, when I was struck with a dead battery in the Hannies parking lot, we discovered nice people shop there too. Frank came to our rescue screeching over in his giant pickup, tossed on some haphazard jumper cables and got us up and running in no time. Thanks, Frank.

Hannies also is a supporter of adoption. No, not kids, though.... (hold that thought) Anywho, there is a bulletin board that posts new adoptable pets from the Athol shelter in a rotating basis. We have yet to understand their rotation schedule, but coo and aww everytime we leave with our Ramen. One of these days, Zane, one of these days. Although I distinctly have refused to forget that "someone" mentioned a while ago that for our anniversary we could get a pet. Which... according to the dates I have etched on Zane's person... is August 21st. I promise to feign surprise.

So we recently decided to subject our reputation to some brutal reality by turning in bottles for cash. Zane at first fought walking up and down the highway just to support my ice cream habit but after tying him to the car roof, he was very willing to participate. After lugging in our 3 (three) filled garbage bags of beer bottles and cans to Hannies' entryway, we set forth to become the shameful people methodically dropping in our days worth of brewskies. Shunned by the elderly and their oxygen tanks passing by, Zane refused to stop screaming and laughing hysterically that the machine kept eating his wakeup juice. I was able to get the situation under control by challenging Zane that the big bottle one couldn't fit a human head. I feel it was worth being wrong.

After the head incident and getting the blood cleaned up, the machines no longer accepted some bottle brands. We went into Hannies to turn in our numerous little slips each worth a nickel before setting out to find homes for our remaining empties.

Oh Hannies you never let us down! Master eavesdropper I am, I listened as the young lady cashier chatted up the girls in front of us. Thinking they were originally close sisters, I realized it was a young Mom (barely older than us) and her tween daughter. I hate that term, but I set aside my judgements for the sake of setting this scene properly. As soon as I begin to grasp the short branches on this family shrub I overhear the cashier ask when she is due. Surprised, I look again. How embarassed that cashier must feel as that woman is as skinny as a rail. Then her tween rotates. Why, she isn't stealing a basketball! She is stealing her youth right out from underneath herself!

Shocked, I cannot whisper fast enough to have Zane uncomfortably stare at this poor toddler. I can only imagine what my face looked like, watching this youth toddle away with a new life only a week or two away. When I finally get Zane's attention I tell him "Look! Look! She's pregnant!" No no I correct, the one with the hot pink training bra straps (think they make training nursing bras?) and the short shorts sporting her unshaven legs. Not in the gross way, just in the peach fuzz late elementary school way. I swear, this girl still enjoyed stickers.

We may or may not have run to the car to more closely study her loading her mom's pickup... again with the pickups!? with groceries. As we crawled through the parking lot analyzing her belly, I figured she didn't even make the cut for MTV's new heinous fad inspiring hit "16 and Pregnant". Sad for her new life, I then found a positive spin, hey... at least they'll bond over their shared love of Barbies.

Oh Hannies, what will you bring us next?

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Tuesday, July 28, 2009

Road Rules/Real World Challenge

What happens when a 56 year old man takes up residency in your basement pounding on walls from 8:30am until midnight?

You guessed it... Road Trip!

Last Wednesday Zane and I hit road in an effort to escape our demons (Hi Dad if you're reading this!) and visit all the Gould/Lippke/von Barta/Calzia relatives in one swing. Success! With the help of juice boxes and books on tape we arrived on the lengthy island at 4pm. Feeling pleased over our stealthy arrival (Mom and Dad Gould were in Ireland and didn't know we were there) Zane treated me to something long overdue. A truly classy date. Taco Bell and driving range.

Ladies, contain yourselves. He's taken.

We had a blast and I learned how to truly bust some balls. The next day we set out to visit Maren and Kevin in good ol' Philly. This left us nervous for their safety. As we approached their 'hood we passed a billboard boasting "Every Murder Is Real" with a hotline so you can validate your loved one's brutal slaying. Maren. Kevin. Get out. Get out now.

I have decided that a couple years ago some clever marketing person for Philly decided to hold a "Whitest Couple Ever" contest which Maren and Kevin clearly won. As a prize they were plopped straight down into the heart of the most dangerous "quaint" city in existence. Each year they survive they have received a consolation cat. While they are noble competitors in maintaining their "Whitest Couple" status, I think it's time to hang up the doctorates and tandem bikes and escape before the brotha's get down on your 'hood with that love of theirs.

After unsuccessfully pleading for them to just hop in the backseat and return to small town life with us, we sadly trotted back to Long Island to prepare for our returning vacationers from Ireland. Of course we wanted them to be greeted in style so we stayed up Thursday night making our sign.

There's nothing greater than those bored looking chauffeurs holding up placards with strangers names on them. Don't you just want to know what that stranger's life is like that enables them a personal luggage caddy? I wanted people to envy Melissa and Tom that way. "Gosh, Brad and Angelina sure look different in person!" "Well those are the best looking chauffeurs I've ever seen!" But the real reaction was "...what... does... that sign say?" Bingo. Shock and awe achieved.

Flashback to Zane's graduation dinner months earlier: Sitting at a dinner table we discussed the naming of grandparents. Zane and I decided to provide monikers for Melissa and Tom that the next generation could use. Something original, something with sass, something... odd.

So back to us at the airport with a giant sign reading "Mammy and Ta Ta" awaiting our guests. I followed the looks in their eyes when they nonchalantly scanned the crowd of anxious drivers/relatives/weird kids holding a sign that... wait a minute... those are our weird kids! It was sweet. There may have been tears. We don't like to talk about it.

The remaining weekend was filled with numerous adventures. Car breakdowns (not mine, phew!), hospital visits (everyone's okay, phew!), inappropriate movies watched (I wasn't the one sitting next to Tom when male genitalia was prominently displayed onscreen, phew!), fires (in a fire pit, phew!), and visiting with more family (not mine, phew!). All in all a successful time away from my family spent with my other family. Luckily it's only been a year so I still like them.

Next year though, we'll have to find a group of strangers to escape to.

Monday, July 27, 2009

The ER Marathon

Recently we made a stint to my old haunches to pay a visit to the family members of mine still unfortunate enough to evade becoming Massholes. During our time there my lovely grandmother Madge-Dogg was told by her physician that she would have to go to the emergency room. This was nothing too dire, he just suggested that she visit the ER because the only clinic nearby to have one of these Vulcan Death Rays was closed until Monday.

3 hours into her visit we received a call from her saying that she had undergone the machine's 2 minute scan and was left to wait for the test results. Julie and I went to keep her company and perhaps rough up some preoccupied nurses. On our walk into the building I came across a $5 bill laying on the entrance ramp. I picked it up and handed it to Julie who insisted that I keep it, but as I wiped the blood off on my pant-leg I told her that I just didn't feel right taking money from some unsuspecting victim.

We entered the waiting room and after noting that the receptionist had her back turned we went in search of my grandmother's room. We made our way down the hall passing patients sleeping in gurneys, group of police officers surrounding one of their own sporting a neck brace, hustling nurses, and bustling doctors. As I contemplated the joys I could have if I took the policeman's utility belt that was abandoned on a nearby chair we entered my grandmother's room.

She sat directly in line with the door in a beautiful powder blue diamond paper gown. She greeted us and we were filled in on how she came to be sitting in her cozy 4 bed room, pantless, and alone. Rather than confront any of the staff busily running down the hallway I spent some much long awaited quality time with my grandma as Julie went to find out what the hold up was all about. Apparently in the emergency room of this particular hospital (the one I was born in might I add) each doctor is in charge of fifteen patients. Rather than treating the patients that are ready to leave, they seem to tend to those closer to death.

While my grandmother sat there saying "I don't know why I'm here I feel fine" her single serving roommates were hardly so lucky. One woman was released shortly after her induction because the doctor determined there was nothing to be done about the blood emanating from her 90 year old honey pot. We assumed the person at one end of the room to be an overly excited old man as we heard the interaction with one visitor; "We're going to the movies!" "Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaa" "Do you want to go to the movies?" "Yeeeeeeoooooooo"; only to realize that this preconceived cheering accompanied other questions as well; "Does this hurt?" "Yeeeeeeeeaaaaaa". Adding insult to injury it turned out to be a woman. Fortunately the third roomie was nearly blind so her family turned on some WWE Raw and sat contently watching.

At the 6th hour my mom came by to lend her stories of Ireland to give Julie and I a chance to have some dinner. As we finished our meal my mom called to let me know that they were finally heading home. After 8 or so hours Madge-Dogg was released with a practically clean bill of health. We stood on her front lawn watching a silent lightning storm light up the sky over the hospital. All we could think was grandpa must be pissed.

Sunday, July 19, 2009

There Will Be Buoyancy

I have been a rather competent swimmer for most of my life. As far as the YMCA is concerned I have the aquatic prowess of a Flying Fish. Recently I have made the discovery that swimming with a life vest is one of the most relaxing ways to enjoy the water. It combines the freedom of swimming with the joys of an inflatable raft.

While it may be the adult equivalent to wearing floaties, I much prefer it to traditional bare-back swimming. When swimming in a natural body of water (something I had previously been put off to the idea of up until this summer) it provides some much appreciated bodily coverage to whatever may be lurking in the murky amber-colored water. My fears of vengeful fish stalking me with their illegitamate lip piercings is qwelled thanks to the fact that I no longer need to tread water to stay afloat. Instead, I can lean back and keep all my appendages in close view near the surface of the water.

While I'm sure this makes for a strange sight to my neighbors; me wearing a bright blue vest, swimming in waters 3 feet deep, it is a minor draw for the fun and pride I have in my selfserving ingenuity. I realize that it is pretty much the same as walking on the sidewalk wearing a helmet, but once the pros and cons are weighed it still seems like a good idea to me.

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

525,600 minutes and all I got was this lousy post.

While it was nice that Zane took time to reflect today on one of the bitches in his life, he failed to remember about the other one. Today marks a year since the fateful day that brought Zane and me together to meet outside the Beer Garden by our mutual friend James Whalen (shout out!). It was James' birthday party (happy birthday James!) and Zane was the first to... well, let's save the story for the wedding. James, we'll corroborate before you give that speech to our guests. :)

Tonight Zane and I went out to celebrate/commiserate in downtown Northampton. We ironically ended up at a beer garden there and sat down over a pint to reflect. So much has happened over a year, lots of "remember this" or "wasn't it funny when". Because we are two nerds, we started a list and compiled a factual sheet charting the progress of two souls on the same path over 365 days.

In the past year...

We have killed 5 plants.
Been through 5 roommates.
Moved a total of 3 times.
Had 1 pet.
Managed 3 Christmases.
Endured 1 ER visit.
Gone through 2 cars.
Had 365 fights.
Seen 7-11 movies in theatres.
Julie has slept through 38 movies at home.
Visited 8 states.
Stayed in 3 hotels.
Had a total of 6 haircuts.
Gifted 2 diamonds.
Exchanged 0 engagement rings.
Been to 1 wedding.
Gone to the airport 2 times.
Met 41 relatives.
Julie has been threatened by Melissa 15 times.
Julie has been threatened by Tom 1 time.
5 people have talked to us against our will.
Zane has been dragged into 12 projects with Barry.
Attended 2 professional sporting events.
Played at LEAST 24 board games.
Endured 16 games of Mexican Train.
Zane has beat Julie at Boggle 0 times.
We have gained a total of 8 pounds.
And lost a total of 3.
Zane has had 4 different facial hair styles.
Had 366 fights.

When the bitch comes to visit

Every weekend Julie's parents come up to stay with us and enjoy their house. While this is usually a bummer for me seeing as I can no longer blast hip hop music or make forts out of the furniture in the house, it is nice to get a break from the responsibilities of entertaining Julie. This week my duties as court jester have been doubly cut back thanks to Neil graciously letting us dog-sit his beloved Allie.

She is a sweet Oreo colored Husky-Mutt who is probably the most laid back dog you could possibly meet. Like most dogs she enjoys long walks, treats, licking sleeping people, dismembering toys and tearing out their squeaker, and above all else; other dogs. When last Julie and I took her out for a pee/poop, we encountered a couple of sweet Labradoodles. After some salutary butt-sniffs the fluffy, friendly dogs went on to enjoy their freedom. Unfortunately for Allie I had to keep her on a leash as to not lose Neil's capricious pup.

I was placed in the uncomfortable position as the oppressor of Allie. Here she had just made some friends and would very much like to run and play with them, but I held her back as if to say "Freedom is for the White 'n fluffy". Sure I was dealing with a dog and not a person but the racial undertones felt all too real. Who was I to say she must be held captive as the rest of the world goes on adventures? Sure I had been co-entrusted with maintaining possession of Allie this week, but morally I didn't know if I could take on the role of master.

I'm sure the domestication of certain animals does lend them to leading healthier happier lives in many instances but I have personally always wished for a greater coexistence with animals, namely in metropolitan settings. Of course, this is a dream as far-fetched and implausible as world peace and fat-free ice cream that still tastes good. I would picture walking through the Washington Square Park, passing a couple of deer grazing by the street performers, ducks wading in the fountain, buffalo crossing the street, and packs of wild dogs begging homeless people for food. A world where for every cursing yuppie on a cell phone there would be three mocking birds breaking up the monotony with beautiful music. There is no room for any of that in Man's civilization, just more movies about CG dogs being mischievous.

Monday, July 13, 2009

a photo essay experiment

a summary of google images that appear when googling phrases that would depict this past weekend.

up to you to figure out what happened...






























Wednesday, July 8, 2009

Our day and a half long detox program

I don't typically see myself as someone who would ever undergo a diet. I have no problem with my figure that can't be solved with a month-long fast, and I respond very well to reverse psychology. So when Julie introduced the idea of trying an "all-natural, fruits and vegetables program" I wanted no part of it, "...or not" I was all for it.

The concept behind the diet wasn't so much to lose weight but to cleanse ourselves of the unhealthy toxins we've been ingesting courtesy of Papa Johns. Last Sunday we were filled with hope. We went to the friendly neighborhood grocery store and stocked up on greens, oranges, and the occasional yellow. Little did we anticipate the hell we were about to put ourselves through.

Monday started off well. We had bananas and peaches for breakfast. It really had us thinking "this is nature's candy". The day proceeded as usual; hours of job searching, wedding show marathons, tense stares at one another over our laptop monitors. Then as lunch neared we grew eager to dig into the carrots and celery. The earth-meat tasted good and all, but it left much to be desired, namely grease and fat. Afterwards our stomachs felt full but our mouths begged for the appearance of an entree. This lack of climax left us in a state of limbo. While we were physically satiated, our taste buds were starved. We may as well have just licked the outside of an ice cream container, for in that perhaps we could have enjoyed some slightly sweetened condensation. Instead there we were, stuck with "healthy" food, nourishing us in ways the big Oprah in the sky intended.

By dinner time we were contemplating whether cannibalism would fit into the diet. In the end we felt the whole process of cleaning and preparing the "neighborhood toddler sashimi" would be more work than it's worth. All that we really craved was bread. Of all the things that we were being held from it was the only one that we were prepared to kill for. I mean, come on! It's the bottom of the food pyramid, one of the few foods that is so good it can act as both a plate and utensil, and can make any object a meal just by placing two slices around it. Ultimately we caved and each had ourselves a bagel. We went to bed satisfied with our bellies feeling full for the first time in what seemed like a year.

The next day started off well. I discovered that cantaloupe can be used for more than just a makeshift botchy ball. As agonizing as it was to dine on our rabbit food lunch we did it with a stripe of pride. The gratification was short lived when Julie had the greatest idea she has ever had in her life (namely making her amazing turkey chili for dinner) I felt it was time to put our little dietary venture to rest.

Overall the stress of having every food I enjoy being withheld from me was much worse than any toxin that may be lurking in the recesses of my rockin' bod. I think next week we'll fair much better with Billy Bob Thornton's all orange food diet.

Monday, July 6, 2009

Julie's Rebuttal

So this is fitting. I have been laid up on the couch for 2 days now, having come down with a cold the day after our July 4th celebration. In hopes of regaining my sassy health in time for this fun-filled (Cousin Erin's wedding) weekend, I have been planted in front of my innocent pleasure: wedding shows. I feel it is a good way to express my creativity by envisioning my special day vicariously through these other women who have been lucky enough to find someone committed. *cough* Ahem, pardon.

Despite my heart fluttering at Z's claims to "lock this down" I did take note that not once was my name mentioned within his wedding day dream. Perhaps I shouldn't take offense to the fact that he has spared me from partaking in his, *cough* glorious day. I didn't even know what a zepplin is, but was glad he had okay music taste. (I was then told it's a blimp.)

All I know is that if I were to be made an honest woman by such a liar as Z, I would do it up in style because a lifetime with him will do me in quickly. In an effort to make sure we were meant to be, it would be an obstacle course to my heart...

First, guests would be placed throughout the Grand Canyon (which we will refer to as the "Love Pit" for the big day). I will be at the top, accessible only by... well, I'm getting ahead of myself. Z will be pushed off a low flying airplane by my father (his version of "giving me away") My mother will be in a nearby Cessna and will toss the flailing Z a chute pack. Midair, Z will be expected to situate his pack and release his chute in time to sprial into the Love Pit. Amidst the skeletal remains of past fiances of mine, Z will go through a series of holes avoiding natives much like Legends of the Hidden Temple. Once the silver monkey has been assembled, Grandma Madge will lock him into his billaying gear and Grandma Joan will begin yanking him up as he scales the interior walls of the Love Pit.

Once reaching the top, Grandpa Jim will give Z the approving thumbs up to marry me and Z will proceed to the obstacle course of eternity.

A mound of burning tires and rope ladders compose all that's left between Z and a lifetime of happiness. As he ascends, well thought out vows in rhyming couplets must be shouted out for cheering onlookers to rate. Once our aunts and uncles tally the results, it will be determined if Z can move on to the final elimination round. At the top of the tire and rope mound, I will be there in my beautiful dress, being held high by Cousin Blaine. Z must tickle Blaine until I am released. Once that is achieved, Tom pops up from beneath the burning pile and begins the ceremony.

So... I mean, I'm not obsessed with all this froo froo wedding crap the TV has to offer. It just helps distract me while I sew together this faulty parachute. I mean, what? It's not like Z doesn't enjoy a challenge. :)

Wednesday, July 1, 2009

200 Channels and there's something to watch...

...unfortunately they only seem to be wedding shows. After two years without TV Julie has been ecstatic to be able to watch it again. Little did I suspect if you search hard enough you can find a wedding themed show to fill every half-hour block of the day (fortunately the same can be said for Law & Order). From multi-million-dollar destination weddings in Belize, to cakes that are a life-sized replicas of the bride, these glamorized exposes on the day every little girl dreams of make the event seem daunting and terrifying.

While some might think this is Julie's way of subliminally gearing me for that frightful day, it really has had the adverse effect. After a marathon of Bridezillas it is apparent that weddings turn women into ruthless egocentric terrors. This hopefully inaccurate portrayal of women on the weeks leading up to their big day makes me fearful of what I have in store for me should I ever plan to turn this blog into a sitcom the bible-belt can appreciate.

Platinum Weddings is the greatest display of the gross infestation of materialism in the world second only to QVC's "Patriotic Family Commemoratives". The centerpieces take on Red Wood tree size proportions, venues span from castles to mountaintops, and brides surround themselves in tool (not referring to the fabric). They claim that these lavish weddings will make the occasion ever more memorable, yet in many cases it seems their only reason worth getting married in the first place.

Watching all these shows do make me wonder how I would design my perfect wedding, because let's face it, someone's gotta lock this down eventually.

(Spoiler Alert) First off, the ceremony would be held in an abandoned airport hanger. Scratch that... an ACTIVE airport hanger. I would appear at the alter in a puff of smoke to the song "The Final Countdown" by Styx. Instead of a tux I would wear a suit of armor. After slaying a giant 3D projection of a Giant Squid the Argentinean national anthem would play as my bride enters. She will be dressed up like some sort of nearsighted archeologist holding a bouquet of chocolate covered strawberries and grapes. She will approach the alter in a zeppelin. For a little extra buzz, we'll be married by whomever was most recently ratted on in the tabloids, and our vows will be presented in the form of dirty limericks. Naturally the reception will be held on the zeppelin and we will serve all you can eat Taquitos and Dairy Queen Blizzards. At the end of the evening I will puncture the zeppelin and force everyone to skydive to safety but my new bride and I will go down with the blimp; because a captain always goes down with his ship and I'm not one to spoil tradition, especially on my wedding day. (End of Spoiler)

Wednesday, June 24, 2009

Where the Wild Things Are.... Maine

After a weekend of foraging for berries and hunting for our dinners, I have returned, unscathed from the woods of Maine. Sure, the beasts are many... I mean, have you heard the rumors of Grandma Joan? But I packed enough tranquilizers that if that 85 year old tried to pick me apart... oh, let her try....

To entertain myself this weekend, and in distraction from the probing questions such as "why are you corrupting my grandson?" and "do you really find it appropriate to gargle your mashed potatoes at dinner?" I mean seriously people, can a girl get a break from the 3rd degree grilling I was getting. Well anyway, I kept track of all the critters I saw while up in Maine. I was disappointed in the lack of furry giant beasts (i.e. Deer, Moose, Zanes) but alas, what can you do?

1. Chickens (I even got to feed them!)
2. Horse
3. Kitty (That was their cat's name....)
4. Turkey Family
5. Skunk
6. Osprey
7. Bald Eagle (Hanging out in a tree across the water)
8. Robins and assorted songbirds
9. Goats
10. Sheep
11. Dog
12. Mosquitoes
13. Chipmunk
14. Dead Chipmunk (Thanks to Melissa.)
(I can feel her smacking my arm as I type)
15. Ducks
16. Dead Duck (No, Melissa didn't off that one.)
17. Seals
18. Goldfish
19. Cows
20. Bees

Well, after this fun-filled weekend there is nothing left to do but take a knife to the chicken in the freezer for dinner and reminisce of my new feathered friends I made... YUM!



P.S. Shout out to my parents! Happy 32nd Anniversary today!

Thursday, June 11, 2009

The Simple Bare Necessities

This afternoon Julie and I were watching some Oprah, as usual, and she had an intriguing piece about living on just the necessities. She challenged two families to live a week with severe cut backs on spending, no use of cell phones or ipods allowed, and only having an hour of TV or computer use. The first family consisted of three teenagers, a materialistic mother, and a tool of a father. As you can imagine their achievements were superficial at best. The Gallant family, however, had a complete reformation. They went in being complete TV addicts and came out closer than ever.

As with every episode of Oprah, this got me thinking. How can Julie and I make better use of our resources? The game plan for moving up here was to return, if not be introduced to nature. Yet, so far our time here has been a reunion with cable television*. There have been strides though. This afternoon we jogged nearly three miles with only two pauses! But enough gloating, back to the subject at hand.

To conserve my alloted computer time this post was drafted on paper first, as to leave time for something like, but not entirely pop-cornography. For those of you who don't know what "paper" is, it is a thin leafy material made from wood. While it is debatable whether this method is really all that frugal, as long as it appeases Oprah it must be good for the world.

You may notice that this post doesn't contain as much humor (or as I refer to it as "silly bits"). That is only because being away from my computer I can't listen to my Bill Engvall CDs for inspiration.

Other ways we've cut back are by opting for baths in the pond as opposed to showers, instead of watching TV we use telescopes to watch the neighbors, and to save money on air conditioning and laundry we've done away with clothes altogether. All in all I think we're well suited to hop on this going green bandwagon. Technically it should go right along with one of my favorite recreational activities anyway. Though giving up fast food will be rough.

I must note however that even after an hour of Oprah preaching about putting away the cell phones and video games, to have a commercial about her grand summer giveaway where she'll be giving away hundreds of TV, iphones, and computers is more than a little hypocritical. For shame Oprah, for shame.


*see next installment "200 Channels and there's something to watch..." to find out more!

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

I need an adult!

Zane and I were brought up as good, behaving children who listened to our parents and didn't speak to strangers. But the one thing we were never taught was how to survive in small town America. Here, rules are made to be broken.

While strolling in the local grocery, Zane and I were casually discussing the benefits of ground meats, as often is our Wednesday night ritual. This gentleman nearby felt it necessary to join our dialogue. Zane told the gentleman "Sir, this is an A-B conversation, so please C your way out of it" but he was relentless. He first tried picking us up by telling us to get "real meat" not the turkey we were oggling and when we didn't tell him our social security numbers he continued.

I was mesmerized by the chip in the lense of his glasses while Zane kept petting his Ned Flanders moustache and giggling at its softness. Our new friend asked us if we knew about "The Barn" and literally was aghast when we said no. He wanted to know where we were from to which Zane hesitantly and generically answered "we just moved here." This did not appease Mr. X as a sufficient answer, so he grilled Zane further "Where's here?" he demanded. Zane, shaking, whispered "Athol." This was what our local stalker was looking for, and he went on to describe how to get to this mysterious "Barn" in Greenfield (a nearby town) "around the rotary, below the train tracks, round the corner, to the right." We nodded as if we knew what he was saying just to get him to stop talking.

What is "The Barn" you ask? It is the best place in the area to get discount groceries! We were told about the deals on things such as....

A 6 pound wheel of Brie for $7!
50 pounds of Barbeque chicken for $15!
3 for $1 6 month old frozen vegetables!
Expired meat of a wide variety for low low prices!
2 for $1 moldy sour cream pints!

I mean this stuff was amazing... and for this man to graciously tell us how to acquire our monthly alotment of excessively large quanities of moldy produce, I mean.... wow.

So as we slowly backed up from our friendly, and probably poisonous pal, plotting our nonverbal escape route, MRS. X comes from behind us! Seems like Mr. X must be quite insistent on his Barn promotions because Mrs. X had a neck brace on as well as Band-Aids strewn about her. We decided to nod some more.

The lovely, and scary, couple asked us some more about ourselves. It began to take on the feel of "why don't you two come to our house... why don't you two get more comfortable... have you seen how nice our bedding is...?" I think I've seen some YouTube videos about these type of people. After mentioning something about a swing set, or something, Zane started grabbing at my arm. They gave us their card and told us to call... what for, they never said. As we checked out, guess which friends found us in the SAME cashier line! I checked a few times before pulling out of the lot, but I think we lost them.

Oh, gotta go, someone's knocking on the door. Boy, people sure are friendly here!

Friday, June 5, 2009

There are plenty of fish in the sea, and now I know how to gut them!

Today was a big day for me. I officially quadrupled my record for most fishes caught in a day. My previous 1 was shattered today when I caught an astounding 4 Crappy! That's not even counting the ones I threw back. A Crappy is a fish indigenous to the lake, named for the dark gunk that they're often coated in. At least that's the only reason I could think of.

Over many years fishing in Maine I never had nearly as much success or enjoyment out of removing animals from their natural habitat. Often we would go out on the boat for hours scouring the waters for gullible sea-creatures. Often we would catch some slimy shrubbery but it never tasted very good, even with tartar sauce.

Today's fishing excursion got to the point that after 2 hours, with the sun going down, my envious fishing compatriots had to drag me away from the area now referred to as Zane's Cove. Thankfully I was wearing a life jacket so my head stayed above water.

Once we got back to the house it was time to do the inevitable. With a rope of 7 Crappy to clean we began our preparations for cooking dinner. Barrytone Sax laid the fish out and proceeded to show me the proper was to humiliate them. While I understand the necessity to cut the supple meat from the bone, dressing it up to look like Judy Garland before hand was a little uncalled for. Although I will admit that Barrystein Bear did do a lovely ventriloquist version of Somewhere Over the Rainbow. It felt empowering to imagine myself as the Wicked Witch exacting my revenge on the little water-loving tart.

At first I had some trouble finding my moral standing on doing the dirty work necessary in the eventual enjoyment of a filet of fish. In the end I swallowed my pride and entered the role of the carnivorous human and began chopping off heads left and right. Much like other forms of murder, what seems like an ugly disturbing task of taking a life isn't so tough once you get into a groove. I will admit that if my sister ever learned of this she probably would never speak to me again, but thankfully there's no possible way she would ever find out.

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Shaniqwa LX you will be missed

While moving to the new place was a fun and exciting experience it is not without its tragedy. Leaving the Astoria apartment we caravanned up route 91, with Neil, Allie and S-Dub driving the truck, followed by Julie and myself cruising in my beloved Honda Accord wagon, and Crunch Barries bringing up the rear in his ruby red Jeep Grand Cherokee. In the week leading up to the big move I had been reunited with my long lost mom-car. She ran well, sputtering a few times but overall standing tall, teal, and proud. I was assured by my family's mechanic that she would be perfectly fine to make the long journey North. I was excited to have her up there. She got great gas mileage and never complained too much. I pictured loading up her big trunk with bikes and finding all the great trails that were in the vicinity.

On the day of the move everything was going smoothly. We packed up the entire apartment over the course of 2 1/2 hours. I put all my electronics in the Honda to keep them close to me, and before too long we were on our way. Getting out of the city was not without traffic, but it was all fairly seamless. Once the traffic broke it looked as though the rest of the day would be smooth sailing.

Julie thought the Honda should be named Shaniqwa for it's big back side and love of DMX, and even though the radio no longer worked, Julie was determined to have a music filled trip as she regaled me (somewhat reluctantly) with acapella versions of many of the songs that unfortunately make up today's pop music.

Just after exiting New York with about three hours left in our journey the Honda began coughing. The gas pedal sounded like it reacted to my touch yet the car was slowing down. Panicked I hit the blinker and pulled the car over two lanes just as the shoulder began to disappear. Crunch Barries, who had done a great job following the whole way, was able to pull over right behind us.

We sat there for a moment planning our next course of action. Fortunately it wasn't long before the highway police came to our aid. They called a tow truck for us then left to attend to a wreck somewhere down the road. Thankfully we were able to fit all that I had packed in the Honda into the Grand Cherokee and waited for the tow truck far off to the side of the road. An hour and a half, and 11 inspired semi tractor-trailer horn blows later the tow truck finally arrived. We followed the truck as it brought my beloved wagon to the shop. I handed over the keys and asked that they determine if it would be ok.

A few days passed and I received word that the timing belt had snapped and whipped nearby parts bending precious valves. Her injuries were too severe, and there was nothing more they could do for her. Upset as I was there was no use in pointing fingers. Perhaps this problem could have been foreseen, maybe Julie shouldn't have offended the car by singing Pokerface so many times, or perhaps I shouldn't have ghost ridden her so much, or taken her off so many jumps in High School, or used her to reenact my favorite scenes from the Bourne Identity. The silver lining to all this is that she did have many many good years, I just knew she could have had a few more.
Where da hood at?... RIP

Tuesday, June 2, 2009

You + Me = Us

Our move... the equation.

One week with my mother in NY
+ just enough free boxes from Starbucks
- alone time
+ 2 rolls of packing tape
+ Tom and Melissa's oasis amidst packing
+ my amazing medium reading
x 2 helpers driving down on Friday
+ a 16' truck
/ parallel parking the 16' truck 8 times
+ one special moving helper with fur!
x Dad's mad packing abilities
- 2 sets of keys turned into the building super
x 3 vehicles caravanning
- Zane's 1991 Honda Accord seizing on the highway once we hit CT
x 3 people standing on the side of the highway for 1.5 hours waiting for a tow truck
x Dad's mad re-packing abilities
- 3 hours lost of travel time
/ a great Chinese dinner
+ Mom and Neil unpacking a ton by the time we arrived 3 hours late (squared)
- spending the weekend with Mom and Dad
+ spending the weekend with Zane's Mom and Dad
/ unpacking
x internet!
x cable television for the first time in 2 years!
x 200 channels
+ beautiful nature
- a trip to the Springfield RMV (=s DMV in normal speak) to get my car on the road
x 2 when we had to return after incorrect paperwork
- one flat tire on MY 2003 Honda Accord on the way BACK up
+ Zane's proven manhood of changing a tire on the side of the road!
+ Julie singing "What a man" by Salt N Peppa while Zane changes the tire
x 2 new back tires
+ no parents for a couple days
= We made it.

Massholes in Athol

As you all should know by now, Julie and myself have taken the blog north to Athol Massachusetts, if not then... well... surprise! We are now living in her parents' lake house on the edge of White Pond. It's a beautiful wooded area complete with chipmunks, robins, and a Walmart.

Going rural takes some big adjustments. For one there are no homeless people anymore, here they're just called locals. When people wave to you on the street they don't typically want to sell you something or have you take a survey but rather they want something completely different. What that something is I don't know, I've been able to avoid them thus far. Instead of car horns, daily life is filled with the sounds of these feathered creatures flying around honking. Instead of rooting for talented pro football teams like the New York Giants, people seem to root for some small local team called the Patriots. It's actually pretty cute really. But the one thing that is truly a shock are all the vampiric insects buzzing around. In New York we didn't have to worry about happening upon a family of spiders, or suiting up with anti-mosquito scent every time we step outside.

It's really quite absurd, this place is just overrun with animals. I'm not talking the cute little fluffy ones that stick out of coach bags, but slippery, chirping, scurrying, confrontational ones. Just last night I awoke to a clutter of noises emanating from the ceiling directly above me. It could only be described as squirrels playing soccer with an lug nut. The real tip off were the high pitched chanting of "Olay olay olay" and the subsequent riot that proceeded a particularly wicked knock.

Above all this place is very friendly. Shop-keeps are actually pleased to help you, cars let pedestrians cross and traffic pass, and no one looks like they are absolutely miserable with their life for no reason. Moving up here has been more than a literal breath of fresh air. Now I just hope I can live here for a while before getting cabin fever. I saw a movie about it once Shawn from Boy Meets World and a bunch of college kids rent a cabin and then are attacked by a flesh eating virus, and there was that weird little blonde kid who flipped out and started doing gymnastics when he heard the word "pancakes". Terrible movie. They're making a sequel you know. I'll probably see it. F***ing Rider Strong.